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Things No One Tells You About Being An Adult

One minute you’re just starting your freshman year of college, the next minute you’re thrown into this thing called adulthood.
And while “adulting” is often made out to be this dreadful part of life where you’re drowning in responsibilities that you’re absolutely clueless about, I’m here to tell you that it’s not all that bad.
Here are the things that nobody tells you about adulting.

Here are the things, I felt like nobody told me about this adult life:

  • Nobody tells you that you will have to pretend that you are doing really fine
  • Nobody tells you that adult life is challenging but worth living
  • Nobody tells you that getting love back is hard, if not impossible
  • Corporate life is shallow
  • Nobody tells you that trust nobody here
  • Nobody tells us how to recognize monsters in the shape of humans
  • Nobody tells you that you are the only one who cares if you
  • Nobody tells you that money matters above all
  • Nobody tells you that you can live without girls at your teenage
  • Nobody tells you that you are a lone wolf and your life’s purpose is to survive and strive for more
  • Nobody tells you that maturity is not all about too much seriousness
  • Nobody tells you that you will have to schedule your own appointments.
  • Nobody tells you that you will be sick and your mom wouldn’t be there for you
  • Nobody tells you that you would not be able to punch somebody so hard for annoying you
  • Nobody tells you Bills, bills suck, nobody tells you that
  • Nobody tells you that your own body would not like you anymore and will reject you and you will have to buy stupid expensive medicines
  • Nobody tells you that 10:30pm would be considered late night
  • Nobody tells you that you will face uncontrollable aches and pain
  • Nobody tells you that making life decisions is a tough job
  • Nobody tells you that you will need 40 years of experiences in corporate when you are just 23 years old
  • Nobody tells you that it sucks when you watch other people of your age having kids and wife
  • Nobody tells you that you will have to vote for 1 as*holes from a total of 2 or 3as*holes
  • Nobody tells you that you will have to eat food you don’t like because you paid for it
  • Nobody tells you that you have to give value to societal expectations Budgetingsucks, nobody tells you that
  • Nobody tells you that you will have to be stay nice to as*holes
  • Nobody tells you that you will be tired all the time
  • Nobody tells you that accepting reality is hard
  • Nobody tells you that cheese is fu*king expensive
  • Nobody tells you that everyone does cocaine
  • Nobody tells you that even your best friends turn into your worst enemy
  • Nobody tells you that wearing a mask is more important than wearing clothes
  • Nobody tells you that big companies treat you like a garbage bag, all they care is money
  • Nobody tells you that life is hard after finishing your college/university degree
  • Nobody tells you that life will end one day
  • Nobody tells you that not all mothers love their kids (very very very rare, but true)
  • Nobody tells you that women desire sex more than men do
  • Nobody tells you that some very beautiful girls can be the soul-sucking evils
  • Nobody tells you that society is a racist as a whole
  • Nobody tells you that hiding pain can be very painful as an adult
  • Nobody tells you that you will need a nap every single second of your adult life
  • Nobody tells you that spilling a beer is the adult equivalent to losing a balloon
  • Nobody tells you that your every fine day would be ruined by responsibilities
  • Nobody tells you that being an adult would be the dumbest thing you would have done with you
  • Nobody tells you that everything is possible, only you have the RIGHT approach.

It may seem hard and confusing to “adult,” because it really is, but it is important to remember that generations before us have done it and generally succeeded. This gives us hope that it can be achieved and that there are more experienced adults around ready to help when we need it. 

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What Does The Way You Kiss Say About Your Relationship

The way you kiss your partner can say a lot about you and your relationship with your partner.
You do not believe in that?
Continue with reading and do let me know if is it right according to you!

Closed mouth kiss – The name of this kiss says it all about the relationship.
The two partners are not communicating enough, and they are not open to each other. They should work on that.

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Cheek Kiss – No matter if it comes for friends or lovers kiss on the cheek is a sign of good friendship and fondness for another person.

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French Kiss –Means that the partners are close to each other and that they enjoy have privacy. If you have done this, then there is nothing else to hide from your partner.

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Sloppy Kiss – This is meaning this relationship is true love because both of the partners do not care about how they look to others.

The Peck – This kiss is usually at the start of every relationship, and your first kiss was probably like this one.

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Single-lip Kiss – This kiss is all about love because it is a very intimate kiss. It is an indicator of deep love.

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The Gentle Kiss – It is an indicator of the deep level of comfort that the two partners have to practice such restraint with a soft kiss.

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Hands Kiss – A kiss on hands can be a precursor to many other things! It could be an indication towards friendship or could indicate a willingness to take the bond to the next level. It is a passionate gesture that shows the person admires you and wants to stay in touch with you.

Earlobe Kiss –  A kiss on the earlobe is surprisingly passionate, sensual and can turn on your partner. It is a clear sign that the kisser is up for some romance, and is teasing you. Plus, this kiss can turn out to be quite ticklish and can spice up things.
Here’s a quick tip to master this kissing style: Instead of just kissing on the earlobe, explore the area with soft and flicker tongue movement!

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Sources: Google; TOI;

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I was a Stutterer, so what…?

I’m in my 20s, and I used to stammer in my early school days.

My name is Amber, but most of my friends call me Amby. I’m a 27-year-old guy, a Working Professional, and the best thing is that I am a person who used to stammer.
Maybe you may think that I’m odd, considering “having a stammer is the best thing to happen in someone’s life”.

Growing up, I was a good student in my class. But my speech impediment was one thing that kept me from being ‘perfect’.

It was, however, not until my 8th year of school when everything spiralled out of my control.

I was propelled into speaking situations that I could no longer dodge and in which I had to prove my competence. My confidence took a plunge for the worst and my anxiety compounded with each passing day.

Like many other teens who have a stammer, I experienced lots of dangerous situations, including being laughed at, being in front of the “curious gaze“, and people making fun of me. My past years, starting from school, were a real hell!
Sincerely, and without any exaggeration.

At this point, I needed a miracle.

Stammering is not easy to live with, but it is not impossible.

Yes,
I think that you are asking yourselves Does he really accepted his stammer completely?.
The answer is No!
I still haven’t accepted it entirely yet, but then a miracle happened.


Stammering is a faulty speech impediment which renders a person incapable of uttering words and letters with fluency. The speech, therefore, becomes incoherent, repetitive and, at times, meaningless.

What makes it worse is a listener’s impatience, lack of interest and mockery.

Imagine a student with a vast amount of knowledge, eager to share their information in a class, only to be met with giggles and mimicry.

The person in question is unable to comprehend the mechanism of their distorted speech. All that he/she wants to say is right in their head, but their vocal cords have left them helpless.

Yet, just a few hours ago, alone in front of the mirror, the words had flowed seamlessly.

One can’t blame kids. Anything unusual, which is seen or heard for the first time, is usually laughed at or derided.

But for the stammerer, this reaction is permanently stored in the memory, only to terrify him/her whenever put under the spotlight, accompanied by a rapid beating of the heart, profuse perspiration and tremors.

Science has not yet discovered the pathology behind stammering hence no cure has been found to date. There is no confirmation whether a genetic predisposition or a traumatic psychological event constitutes the triggering factor.

Stammerers are generally found to have both or, in some cases, it is an idiopathic disorder. It starts in early childhood and continues throughout the lifetime. Once a stammerer, always a stammerer.

Fortunately, there are a few exceptions.

Every stammer has a different way of speech, and the severity varies from person to person.

But the reactions that we receive from our surroundings are more or less the same.
We are typically brushed off with phrases like: “Oh it is only in your head”, or “I didn’t even notice until you mentioned it to me” without them realising that they had to finish our sentence for us or looked away while we were still stuttering.

Just like other stammerers, I was also a target of bullying and would often go through a cycle of negative perceptions, and depression.

Simple things turned into tedious mind-wrecking issues. Few of the concerned people in my life helped me to overcome this. After many attempts, I made progress and started having faith in myself.

My miracle came in the shape of my parents and my teacher Mrs Ganguly who helped me in improving my fluency over words, then sentences, paragraphs, chapters and finally Language. She helped me in focusing on eloquence rather than fluency through breathing techniques.

What culminated by the end of that year was something I had never anticipated.

After having done multiple public speeches in the classroom, activities in the school and thank you speeches to a room full of people, I had come face to face with my fears.
My dreams were unleashed, and I had gained more than I could have ever imagined.

How grateful I am towards Ma’am and my Family cannot be covered even by all the words in the entire language dictionary.

With every tribulation, there is now also ease which wasn’t there before.
With my new way of speech, I was ready to embrace all the challenges that life has to throw my way, and I intend to take them head-on,

Eloquently…


Courtesy: Dawn – Blogs; Google.com; Google Images; Stammering Helpline; Stutter Tutorials.